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I've been speaking to this boy on facebook for ages, we've never met.. I'm 14 and he's 16. We skype nearly every night and he's so funny, kind and really sweet. He does loads of magic tricks and ughhh I don't even know. He's perfect! He always tells me I'm beautiful, always listens to me and has helped me with a few issues. But.... He's lost his virginity and I'm a virgin, he told me he's had sex over 50 times. He says that he wants to do sexual things with me but I don't feel comfortable with that, I normally say ''I'll see'' o ''I don't know yet'' But I don't want to tell him I don't want to have sex with him incase he stops talking to me, he's too good to lose! I've never felt so happy but I'm not ready to have sex with someone I barely even know. How do I tell him I don't want to have sex with him without him getting angry o stop talking to me? Please help!!
 EmLuvsSprinkles posted hace más de un año
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EgoMouse said:
Say you're not interested in sex. Simple right?
Don't make it any más complicated than it should be.
I had a lot of sex but I would never stop talking to a person just for saying she's not interested. He's not going to stop talking >> Believe me when I say this, men think más than about sex and when we talk about sexual things with a person, it doesn't ALWAYS mean he would actually do it. tu two are just Skyping, it already shows he can't have sex with tu anyways and he's just having fun with fantasizing only.
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peacebaby7 said:
He sounds like a player to me. If he's bragging about his "sexual accomplishments," then I assure tu that he's most likely not "too good to lose." And tu don't have to do anything you're not ready for, so don't let him pressure tu into anything. Go ahead and tell him that you're not ready for that and don't wish to engage in anything sexual with him. If he stops talking to you, then tu deserve better. tu should focus on finding someone who will respect your feelings and furthermore, not have the likely possibility of an STD due to frivolous sex (not saying that's how all STD's are contracted, but in his case, that's how it would be most likely).

There's this guy I liked, for example. He was everything I thought I was looking for in a guy. He never asked me for sex, but if he had, I don't care how much of a saint I thought he was, that would end it for me. Turns out he was a bit of a jerk anyway.

And call me a girl all tu want, but in my opinion, sex should be something shared between two people who have known each other for a long time and amor each other, except in the case of still being a minor. Even if tu met someone in middle school and are still seeing them as a junior, sex should still be something put off at least until school is finished. Condoms and birth control pills are not 100%. If you're going to risk the possibility of getting pregnant, tu should at least want to be able to have the money to care for it.

Hope that helps, and good luck.
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Blaze_of_Ares said:
It sounds like he has the wrong intentions. Tell him no, don't let him pressure tu into it. If he stops talking to tu because tu won't have sex, it means that's all he wanted and he wasn't really interested into you. But if he respects your choice and is willing to wait, well his a good fella. But don't have sex. You're both underage and its dangerous too. Just because he had sex countless times doesn't mean its safe. "Achilles may have killed hundreds, but an arrow killed him"
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^well said!
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JDupres2012 said:
Definitely tell him tu don't want to have sex. If he is as awesome as tu think, then this isn't a problem at all. In fact, he should respect tu for that. If he does stop talking to you, then he is a scumbag who wasn't as awesome as he was making tu think, i.e. he was playing you. If he was really too good to lose, he wouldn't be lost over something like this. I don't mean to be harsh, but I'm one of those brutally honest kind of people. :) I wish tu the best with this!
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sieluvzsoul said:
Well...try reasoning with him, if hes as sweet as tu say, then he otta understand, srry if this didnt help any, i really tried
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summer448 said:
Just tell him you're not comfortable having sex yet. tu should never toy around with your virginity like that just because your afraid of losing someone. Once its gone tu can't get it back.
If the boy is really into tu he will respect and understand your feelings towards the subject and mover past it. If he does get mad and stop talking to you, you're probably better off without him /.\
I hope this helps a little <3
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BlindBandit92 said:
"sighs" Why do people make this harder than it is. I am a virgin and I'll tell ya straight. If I didn't want to have sex with him/her. I'd tell them no and be adamant. And if he is frankly upset about some aspect of you. He may not be the person for tu and mover on. Simple.
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neonClouds said:
>he's had sex over 50 times

toplel
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Just say no. If he gets upset about tu saying no he's probably just after some poon.
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x-Yumi-x3 said:
If he only wants tu for your body why would tu want to be friends with him anyway. Tell him I don't wanna have sex it's that simple.


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karolinak1999 said:
16 and had sex 50 times huh? From what your saying he seems dangerous...should end things with him....just sayin...
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-DarkGirl23- said:
If you're not content with having sex o expressing sexual desires with anyone, then don't. If the other individual pressures tu o disrespects tu in any way as a result of that then guess what.... He's not perfect.
And you, along with any other individual, deserve better than that.
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Book-Freak said:
tu must never feel pressured to do something sexual if tu don't want to, especially not to keep a friendship alive. If e really is your friend, he'll respect that. If tu don't want to tell him straight up that tu don't want to sleep with him, use the 'I'm underage' line, just make sure tu aren't pressured into something. Any sexual encounter, first time o not, should be happily consented to, not pressured on you. You're meant to enjoy it, after all.
I understand that he's a good friend, but he shouldn't use that to have sex with you.
Also, he's probably exaggerating the number of times he's had sex.
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