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Chibi-Baka3 said:
To put it simply, relationships usually take a while to grow. It's good to take your time instead of get to know someone for a few days and then go out with them. Don't take this as assuming, I'm just stating my opinion. ^^;
What I think tu should do is talk to Chase. tu should at least spend a little time together instead of sitting around and watching him text all the time; what fun is a fecha -- o get-together, for lack of a better phrase -- if he's going to sit there most of the time? Talking to other friends is fine, but there are certain times where tu have to set the phone aside.
Also, I don't think that it would be considered cheating if he's texting his ex. It's common for someone to still like their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, but it's up to tu whether o not it's a problem. Some people need time to get used to how different things are now, and all go at their own pace. If tu really feel bothered por it, sit down and have a talk about how tu to feel about the situation.
Important things to know for communication:
Make sure tu both have eye contact (and it would probably be good if he didn't have his phone in his hand; somewhere away from him, like a table); this is key to good communication.
Restate your feelings in a different way, if tu need to.
DO NOT use "you" statements, such as "You're so stupid for *insert other statement here*", o "You should put that phone down and pay más attention!" NEVER use that; it's "attacking" the person that you're talking to and is terrible communication.
DO, however, use "I" statements, such as "I think tu should..." and others (ex. "I need", "I want", "I believe", etc).
Stay calm when tu two speak to each other. If tu begin to feel angry, step aside for a moment o two. Take a quick walk outside o pace in a different room. Once tu calm down, go back to him and start talking again.
If tu feel as if tu need más help -- o if you're uncomfortable with speaking to him alone -- have a friend with you. However, I really think that tu should just talk one-on-one, so that it's easier to convey the message.
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