Peaceandlove67 Article: Asexual preguntas frecuentes Blog

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posted by Peaceandlove67

Hello, everyone. Antonia here, and I decided to do a blog on preguntas I'm frequently asked about being asexual. As I mentioned in the Introduction Blog, I am asexual. I first discovered that when I was fourteen. I was bullied in school because of it. If you're not sure what asexual is, this should educate you, (I hope). Here it goes.

1. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean tu don't date?
A: No. All asexual means is that you're not sexually attracted to anyone. Romance is totally different. Some asexuals are aromantic, but some of them are romantic. Romantically speaking, I could go either way, but I prefer males.

2. Q: Are tu an alien?
A: No, I am not an alien. If tu want to see aliens, watch a sci-fi film.

3. Q: Since you're not dating someone, are tu lonely?
A: No, I'm not lonely. I have friends. Friendship can be just as rewarding as romance, if not more. Honestly, the only reason I haven't dated is I'm afraid of getting hurt. I've had good friends who have been hurt in romance, and I know it could very easily happen to me.

4. Q: How do tu know you're asexual?
A: tu just know. That's really difficult to answer. There are different types of asexuals out there, and in the end, tu know how tu feel. Don't listen to anyone who tells tu otherwise.

5. Q: Do tu think you'll change your mind when the "right person" comes along?
A: No, I won't change my mind. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not a choice. Besides, the "right person" would understand my needs and desires.

6. Q: If you're asexual, does that mean you're repulsed por sex/the idea of it?
A: No. Sexual orientation and sexual desire are actually two different things. I am repulsed por the idea of sex, but I don't reject it entirely.

7. Q: Are tu asexual for religious purposes?
A: No, I'm not even religious. I'm spiritual, though. Asexuality is not celibacy. Celibacy is a choice. Asexuality is not a choice.

8. Q: What is the worst part about being asexual?
A: Probably the ridicule I've faced for it.

9. Q: What is the best part about being asexual?
A: I'm not sure. I guess the fact that it makes tu an individual.

10. Q: Does it annoy tu when people misconstrue your being asexual?
A: Yes.

I hope tu enjoyed this blog. There are más blogs to come.

Peace and love,
-Antonia

RetroRock64, Roldan13 and 3 others like this

ktichenor Wonderful article! Bravo!

80smusiclover1 I couldn't agree more. Another job well done, buddy!

Rubyrings Yes, very well written. I'm really liking your blogs so far!

BingoPB Great job, Antonia. This is very educational. I am asexual myself. I'm glad you were available to be the first person to talk to about it.

Peaceandlove67 Thanks, everyone.

Roldan13 Great blog, Antonia.

RetroRock64 Yes. It was very educational.

Peaceandlove67 Thank you so much!

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música and Friendship, What más Do I Need? Part Three

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One Friday night, Erin was listening to the radio in her bedroom. She always like listening to the classic rock station. Sometimes it played some Beatles songs. However, it had been a long día for Erin. She was exhausted, and she fell asleep. The siguiente day, she woke up, and her friend, Allie, was standing siguiente to her bed. Allie had a concerned look on her face. She asked, "Erin, are tu okay?" Erin replied, "I'm fine. Why do tu ask?" Allie said, "Well, for one thing, it's almost 10:30. Your aunt told me you're usually awake por 10:00 on a Saturday morning. For another thing, tu left the radio...

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música and Friendship, What más Do I Need? Part Two

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música and Friendship, What más Do I Need? Part One

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música Gave Me New Faith Final Part

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I woke up to a thumping sound. I asked, "What was that?" Paul said, "I'd say it was a car door being shut. I think my parents are back." I said, "I see." I heard the front door open. I then heard a woman's voice say, "Paul, we're back. Where are you?" Paul replied, "In here, Mother." She came into the living room. When she saw me, she asked, "Who is this?" He said, "This is my friend, Erin." She said, "So, you're Erin. Paul talks about tu all the time." I said, "Good things, I hope." Paul said, "All good!" His mother smiled. She asked, "When was the last time tu had something to eat?" I said,...

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Nine

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Eight

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One day, I was walking in the forest with Allie and Paul. As we were walking, I saw a truck. I said, "Quick! Hide in the bushes!" Allie said, "What? Why?" I said, "I'll explain later." We hid in the bushes until there was no sign of the truck. Paul asked, "Why were we hiding? Who was that?" I said, "My grandfather." Allie said, "Oh..." I said, "I haven't seen him in so long. I'm afraid he'll beat me again." Allie said, "I see." I said, "And tu know what he did to Barry and to my father. I don't want him to do the same thing to tu two." Paul said, "Erin..." I said, "I amor tu too much to...

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Seven

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One day, I woke up thinking it was a Saturday. I went back to sleep, but my aunt woke me up. She said, "Erin, it's time to get up." I asked, "Why do I need to get up so early on a Saturday?" She said, "You're a día off. It's Friday, dear." I groaned. She said, "Come on, Erin. It's not that bad." I said, "I don't have any friends. It's not worth it." She said, "Maybe today will be your lucky day." That gave me the strength to get out of bed. Later in gym class, I was bullied again. I pretended that I needed to use the restroom so that I could cry. I hid in the stall and cried. A few moments...

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Six

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After losing my best friend, Barry, I slipped into a depression. My grandparents refused to see me. My less consistent friends turned their backs on me. The only ones there for me were my aunt and uncle, my brother, Daniel, and my cousin, Barbara Ann. I had very little, if any, self-confidence. I didn't even try to confront Grandpa again, fearing he would beat me again. The only thing that brought me any happiness was music. I still enjoyed the Beatles above all others, but I liked to explore different bands as well. I overheard someone talking about a metal band called System of a Down, so...

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Five

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A few months passed, and I was still suspicious of Grandpa. He continued to give out hints that he probably murdered my father when I was really young. Grandma never spoke to me, unless I spoke to her. When I asked her about my father, she dodged the pregunta and changed the subject. Either she was involved, o she was trying to protect Grandpa. One cold December day, I was walking in the forest with my dog. I suddenly heard someone faintly say my name. I looked over and saw Barry. He was lying in the snow, shivering. I said, "Oh, my God! Barry! What happened?!" He dicho weakly, "I was walking...

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Four

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Despite the fact that I no longer had Christian faith, I still went to church to amuse my grandparents. I said, "I don't believe in their ways anymore." My aunt said, "I know, Erin. This is to amuse Grandma and Grandpa. It makes them happy." I said, "All right, but here's a warning. Someday, I'm going to get tired of smiling and nodding." One day, I did. Because of my opinionated respuestas to Grandma's preguntas in Sunday School, I got kicked out of Sunday School. When Grandpa found out, I knew I was in trouble. After lunch that Sunday, Grandpa dicho to me, "Let's go outside." That never meant...

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Three

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música Gave Me New Faith Part Two

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One day, I noticed that my mother wasn't actuación right. She was very pale and seemed lethargic. She also had a terrible cough. She went to the doctor and was diagnosed with pneumonia. She was later put in the hospital. The doctor dicho that things weren't looking good. It wasn't pneumonia; it was much worse. It was myocarditis. Suddenly, it happened. Her corazón stopped beating. The doctor tried to revive her, but to no avail. I still remember the chilling words like they were dicho yesterday: "Time of death: 11:32 pm." I did not want to believe I had lost my mother. At first, I blamed the doctor...

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música Gave Me New Faith Part One

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The Cold and Warmth of Winter Final Part

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I was beginning to lose hope in the idea of finding a friend. One day, something amazing happened. I saw that I was getting new neighbors. I saw a kid there who appeared to be around my age. I decided to go over and talk to him. I said, "Hi, I'm Winter. It's nice to meet you." He said, "Hi, Winter. I'm George. It's nice to meet you, too." I noticed he had a bit of an accent. I said, "That's a nice accent tu have there." He said, "Thank you. I'm from Liverpool, England." I said, "Like the Beatles?!" He said, "Yes." Another Beatles fan! I knew we would get along! I talked with him for a little...

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The Cold and Warmth of Winter Part Five

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I was always told that the segundo día of school is never as bad as the first. It's true. My segundo día of school wasn't as bad as the first. It was worse. One of the bullies poured some water on the floor just to watch me fall. I wasn't hurt, not physically anyway. What did I do to deserve that? I don't know. When I was walking to the bus, some of the other kids threw rocks at me. It really hurt. I came inicial crying. I had some cuts and bruises, but I was okay physically. Emotionally, I was the opposite. My aunt said, "Winter, try to see the good side. You're not hurt too badly. I'm sure you'll...

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The Cold and Warmth of Winter Part Four

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The Cold and Warmth of Winter Part Three

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When I had entered the fifth grade, I was dreading it. I had heard rumors that the teacher was really mean. When I met her before school started, she seemed really nice. On the first día of school, I was wearing one of my Beatles t-shirts. She noticed it, and she said, "Darling, I amor tu already!" I said, "Okay, then." She would take up for me all the time. The other kids often called me glasses. She heard them and said, "She has a name, guys. Her name is not glasses. It's Winter." There was one día when another girl kept picking on me. I finally had enough and said, "I might look sweet and innocent, but that shit is for suckers, and I'm no lollipop." I looked at the teacher. She winked and said, "I heard nothing." I would have had her for the sixth grade, too, but unfortunately, I moved to Tennessee as soon as the school año was over. We both cried. We promised to keep in touch with each other, and we've kept in touch to this day.

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The Cold and Warmth of Winter Part Two

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When I got a little older, the mean nicknames started to fly. In the third grade, I got called chicken legs a lot. I don't know why. Chickens don't have long legs like mine, the last time I checked. Every time I'd walk through the hallways, someone would shout, "There goes chicken legs." I would remind them, "My name is not chicken legs. It's Winter." por the time spring came, I was so tired of being called chicken legs. One day, one of my classmates said, "Hey, chicken legs!" I said, "That's better than what tu are." He said, "Oh, really? What am I?" I said, "You're a horse's ass." He didn't...

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The Cold and Warmth of Winter Part One

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I was once asked, "If tu could compare yourself to a literary character, who do tu think you'd be?" I dicho that I see myself as the Ugly Duckling. I started out as a complete outcast, and I blossomed into a beautiful swan. This is a metaphor, of course. This is how my story goes. I was raised por my aunt and uncle. I never really knew my parents, as I lost them at a young age. I was lucky that they took me in. If not for them, I would have been dumped in a orphanage. I knew that they loved me, but getting everyone else to like me was harder. The other kids picked on me all the time. I don't...

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Grace's Diary Final Chapter

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May 18, 2012
Today was the last full día of school. We had our annual awards ceremony today. Some of my friends got awards for highest average in certain subjects. I didn't expect to get one. I wouldn't have minded if I didn't. But I did! I got the Model Citizen Award. Apparently, many of my fellow students dicho some good things about me. After school, I told John about it. He wanted to come, but he was out of town preparing for a concierto with his band. He said, "I'm happy for you, Grace! tu deserve it." I said, "Really?" He said, "Yes, really. When I picked tu up from school, I met some of...