they were both great since but with Oz I really could see her pain after seeing them whereas with Tara's death she was more angry at first and the pain came later.

with tara it was not tara doing it with oz it was him tara did not choose and with oz it was more him then woren

I think both of them were equally heartbreaking. I cried when Tara died. that was really sad. However, i think seeing oz cheat on her was sadder

it's made me sad and then willow went all dark and scary

Both. But I think Tara dying was worse because they were starting to forgive each other... :(

Isn't a death always the most heartbreaking?