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posted by riathebest_23
Yes, fighting is bad, fighting is immature, fighting is painful. But that doesn't mean it isn't a good option. But let's get this straight. Sure you're going to fight, but you're not going to puñetazo, ponche bite pull hair, scratch, slap faces, whack windbreakers on each others bare backs of do any thing associated with cheesy car fights. Instead you're going to have a almohada fight, screaming. "This is for when tu mined my new blouse" o "I hate it when tu flint with my boyfriend" with each swing. Get out those aggressions, girl. It a almohada fight doesn't work for tu maybe get two boys involved and have a chicken fight on their shoulders in a pool. The point is to fight to end the fight, without ugly bite marks on tu arms of an eyeball that feels like it's been scooped out with a spoon Touche.
posted by riathebest_23
This Fixer is about working it out por working out. You're both going to sweat it out side por side until tu decide together when enough is enough. A little healthy competition will replace the spat you're having our who did what and whos fight and all that other pop-pycock. Race around the school track, do pull-ups, push-ups, sit-ups, counting around, until one of tu drops. When you're sweaty fatigued sick of it all say, "I'm sick of it all especially being in a fight with you" Ten bucks says she'll share her Gatorade in agreement........................... ..........................................................
posted by riathebest_23
Who's going to juzz this big bairy attitude brawill; tu are she is Oh! want hell her it's time to deal, and ask her to come to your house in cruddy clothes. Saturday affternoon, Pre-date, birst open your piggy bank and buy two dozen eggs and two dulces bars. When she arrives, give her a dozen eggs and yourself a dozen and have an egg toss in the "" yard. 'Win' por operating and throwing the egg right at her T-shirt o jeans, If she looks at tu like you've cracked, 'egg' her on to your head. If you're both nor covered in egg and laughing within a few minutes, tu blew this assignment. The dulces bars are for tu guys to eat afterward as tu glow in renewed friendship, and yolk.
posted by riathebest_23
What do tu do if you're so completely over this rift between tu two yet, she still won't cave; it's tempting to want to bail from the friendship and let her wallow in her stubborn anger. But that's the easy way out if tu think you've done your share in trying to mend the situation you're probably right. But tu can't force her into anything. So, you'll wait. Try not to bold it against her if she needs más time than tu to cool off. She'll come around and when she does then tu use one of the following Friend Fight Fixers to bury the batchet.
posted by riathebest_23
Silence is a super common side effect of a fight. tu both think us up to the other person to admit she's obviously lost her mind. So why should tu be the one to inimate truce. Because tu can keep feeling angry and burt, o tu can decide you'd rather have fun and feel happy. God let's see. E-mail her call, write a note-just make it clear that doing nothing will get nowhere. Do what tu have to in order to get this bail rolling if she doesn't respond see bellow.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!............................................................................................................................................................ ......... ........... ............................... ..............
posted by riathebest_23
Say tu tried a Fight Fixer but despite your best efforts: you're still not over it. We'll call this "right residue," which is just mistrust wearing an everythings OK now mask. There's a China-sized crack of doubt that she might let tu down again o maybe she's a tiny bit worried you're Luckily tu can swat away these emotional mosquitoes with a contract. On a piece of white paper use black pen to write a lista of ways tu promise to be good to each other. Then carefully tear the perimerer so all sides are rough-edged. Scranch the paper into a ball unscranch it and dip it in room temperature té until it's an old looking yellow color Gently lay it out flat in the sun and when it's dry, you'll have an official homemade. Bill of Friendship Rights Suggestion. Make two so tu don't fight over who gets to keep it.
posted by riathebest_23
The word punish might bring to mind imágenes of six consecutive weekend grounded with no TV. IM o sleepovers because tu accidentally borrowed your dad's drill to crack walnuts on the antique dinning room mesa, tabla because jeez: sometimes a girl fancies snacking on walnuts. Banish that thought Seriously though pick a dare for your bud to prove she's sorry. Put every condiment in the fridge on a conservar en vinagre, salmuera and tell her to eat it. Have her walk up t the hottest guy at the pool, and tell him she's the neighborhood cannonball champ. Think of something just painful enough to be funny but not hurtful. When she's done pinkle swear to be note careful with each others feelings. Then go out for nachoe-topped with every con? At the fixins bar. Maybe not.
posted by riathebest_23
Depending on what's gone down, a formal apology may be the only way your friend can atone for her sins. If tu need a sincere "I'm sorry" to get over her infraction that's OK. But tu might have to ask for it. She can't read your mind and changes are she feels bad about the fight too. hola maybe she's reaching Friend Fight Fixers through 5 right now trying to map out her apology strategy. Make it easy for her. Send an e-mail explaining that tu just needed to know it won't happen against so it's she were to apologize and mad make a propreties that'd he enough for you.
posted by riathebest_23
If it's a little más complicated than that, and forgiving her becomes a chore on your to do lista first decide if a fixer is really the best way to stop up the steam coming out of your ears. pregunta Was this a premedirated Ice queen mover o was she totally unaware she'd driven a stake through your heart? Was this the first time your friend did whatever she did to make tu mad, o does she do this to tu all the time: For a repeat offender see Fight Fixer No 10: If your friend's offense was a first-time flub, why not chalk it up to a she's - only - human mistake and forget about it? Turning the other check on her out-of-character moment is mega nature and will help tu "walk away" mentally, which miraculously squalishes the drama you're feeling emotionally. In other words, don't do darn things. If only finals were this easy.
posted by riathebest_23
All right, you're upset, Maybe you're furning. Maybe you'd like to brand your friend's hair in an industrial blender. That's fine. Let yourself be But be mad in a pair of running shoes while tu jog a mile. Be mad at your almohada while tu pulyerize those teeny inner. Cruellar on your friend because that can create mutual madness which would really blow things beyond proportion. The heat of your feelings: will cool down and, when you're done seeing red, simply call Miss Knuckle head and tell her what's up: Did tu know tu really bummed me out the other día when tu blurted my business in front of everyone? Can tu promise not to do it again? Great, thinks Enough said.
posted by riathebest_23
That's right. golondrina your pride, and let it slide - even though tu absolutely, posilutely know for sure that tu did so pay her brick the five bucks tu borrowed from her. She's peeved, and you're left wondering if she's having a brain lapse o something. So why should tu say "sorry" and ducha, ducha de her with gifts, darn it" Well, let's put this in perspective, shall we Look is it really worth losing a friend over a five-spot: Offer up a hard-to-resist compromise" "I'll tell tu what let's searf down five dollars worth of Baskin Robbins, my treat, and call it even Steven." If she insists on having it her way cough up the $5 and consider it an investment in the freidnship. Even if she is having a brain lapse she's your bud and was nice enough to float tu the moolah to begin with. Oh, and siguiente time tu pay her back on a loan ask for a receipt Nicely.
posted by riathebest_23
For some girls, gifts are the way to go. It may sound totally materialistic but hola she's your friend and, some bud can be bribed as we all know! If it takes a little sweet nothing to get her to stop scrunching her face at tu as tu pass in the halls, then get to it. What won't work? Easy to-get-gifts like a "nice" candle o frame. Sorry What will work? A framed picture of the two of tu in better times. o a candle tu made just for her at one of those fun craft-making stores. All other gift ideals are subject to details only tu know about your friend. The más personal, the better: envolver, abrigo your package in homemade wrapping paper (sponge-paint some plain, white paper), and present it ti her in private With any luck she'll be unable to fight back those fears of joy
posted by riathebest_23
Sometimes a thousand words aren't worth jack. o maybe you're not a word person, which means saying o escritura an apology would be like hiking up plátano Reel Mountain in six inch stilcttols. Non-word people are usually either visual-artsy o have a thing for math. And since calculating a serious algebra equation isn't all that heart-warming (unless you're watching Good Will Hunting), this is for the art lovingal. Draw paint, sketch a picture that screamer. "You're awesome and I'm such a Party McBee for más seeing the hurtfulness of what I did" Mount the picture o a piece of poster board and at the parte superior, arriba center expertly write her name in oversized block letters, Deliver it to her with a smile. If your masterpiece doesn't muster peace, it's back to the drawing board, Lady Picasso. Read on
posted by riathebest_23
Heart-to-heart talks stink like dog doo. That's not the popular opinion - especially if tu tune in to the 7th Haven o any of those hokey cine on TV's Lifetime network for women -- but it's a realistic truth for plenty of people. Too many emotionally charged chats are just nerve - annihilating yuvky, muscfests of overly sensitive feelings. tu have to tell her why tu wish tu could turn the Erch a Sketch of your wrongdoing event upside down. But since tu can't send a letter to get it through her noggin how great she is, how much tu cherrish her, how tu are - from now until you're both grannies - going to be sensitive to whatever it is she's upset about. Put it on pretty stationery, and caracol mail in with cutsie stickers and a pool stump. She should call the minuto she reads it.
posted by riathebest_23
When a friend lets tu know she's upset about something you've dicho o done (or she thought tu dicho o did), it's up to tu to clear the air. Even if it's a misunderstanding - wait, especially if it's a misunderstanding - you've gotta step up to the apology plate. Admitting you're wrong isn't easy, but if tu do a hat dance around her now sensitive feelings, the drama will just grow. To deliver a sincere apology, look your friend in the eye and tell her. "I am so sorry." Now hug, cry, do what tu do, then go eat something atery-clogging and talk about not-so-serious, stuff, like celebs and makeup: You've had enough serious discussion for one afternoon.
posted by riathebest_23
When the disagreement is too hurtful, if your words o actions are too damaging, a friend might just not want to make up with you.

If tu have been disloyal, and do not reveal your true desire to continue a friendship, then think it over, and never say o do these things again.

Avoid accusing the friend, if tu accuse them it gives them más reason to fight back.

True friends are hard to find and keep. Remember this. tu will meet many friends in life, but only perhaps one will be true and sincere.

If tu think they did o dicho something, don"t always jump to conclusions. Ask if they did o didn't...
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posted by riathebest_23
1 point
Let the argument simmer for a while, por leaving it alone, and avoiding communication. If tu talk right after the fight, many things are dicho out of anger. However, do not wait too long as allowing bad feelings to brew for too long creates a situation that becomes más difficult to make up. So after the fight calms down, make sure tu talk to the person before its too late. After tu do that, sit down and say your sorry if tu the one who caused the fight. Even if it was the other persons fault, just take the blame so tu will make up sooner than later.
2 point
Take time to reconsider if this person is really a friend if you're constantly in fights and always making up first
3 point
Reflect on what tu may have done. Read past emails, chats ect. This will help tu understand their point of view.
4 point
Give in and apologize. The other person probably wants to do it too, but it shows that you're a courageous and dedicated friend.