Why Edward Is Not Abusive 

She does make very good points and I agree with her on most parts. However I still can't see how anyone can see Edward and Bella's relationship as healthy- it is blatant obssession and dependency. I've experienced that and it's not nice.

Also, people bring up the fact that Jacob is her best friend because, quite simply, he is! Whenever I have debated this, I always bring up the fact that Jacob is a werewolf. It's only fair. But I also bring up the fact that Edward is a vampire and yes he has years of self-control but every moment he is with her is dangerous. You only have to read Midnight Sun to see that. That's why I think Edward is just as dangerous as Jake.

She's absolutely right about blaming a lot of the characters, a lot of them are manipulative and selfish and you can't just blame Edward... The same way that a lot of the Team Edward fangirls can't just blame Jacob. They've all done extreme things.

Thanks for submitting this! :)

Very good and valid points but I still think his actions do apply as abuse. They may be of considerably valid reasons and all that but it's still abuse.

If someone hit you for a considerably valid reason - it's still abuse. It just may not leave the abused person feel as bad as they would in non-valid case.

If someone kidnaps you and holds you captive against your will, it's psychological abuse nevertheless, even if they had a valid reason to do so.

Extreme methods of this kind are abuse in any case. I think in this case the word 'abuse' is somewhat misused/misdefied, like 'obsession' is mistaken for pure 'passuion', as in people always say they are obsessed with something or accuse others to be obsessed, even though the case would be just passion. As in deep, dedicative and with-all-heart love but not in a life altering way, plus also, in obsession the case barely ever is love in the first place anyway.

So, I'm not trying to turn down thos points all in all, they really are valid for what they're basically meant for. But I'm just saying "Edward is not abusive" is not a valid claim because he is regardless of the reasons why he does all those things to Bella.

Really well written essay, seriously the only valid-sounding argument I've ever seen against the abuse claims. Even if I don't agree with the author.

But let's say, just for argument's sake, that everything the author says is true, and that Edward isn't abusive. That simply because he is a vampire somehow alters things. That doesn't change the fact that millions of girls are in love with his personality. The reality is, there are no vampires. If girls out there are looking for someone that personifies the same traits and qualities that Edward exemplifies, they will inevitably be drawn to abusive men. And I think that that's the reason so many people bring up the abusive theme in the books.

It's very well written.

But I still think the relationship is abusive.

Edward isn't the problem in the relationship, Bella is.

^Good point! Though I think they're both 'to blame', Bella is extremely emotionally dependent and not just on Edward. I can't hate her for that because I know what that's like but it is definately not a good quality to have.

Meh. Decently written, but with indecent points. I have read all of the books, and looked deeper into the series and still find Edward controlling and, in some ways, abusive.
Her reasons (the fact that Edward loves her and was trying to protect her) do not take away from what he was doing.

And her Jake-hate seriously bothers me...

Im sorry but bella has no personality and is gay

gay means happy.. way to have a super ignorant insult. i hate bella as much as the next person, but really? gay? arent you smart.

I may not agree with this essay, but it was well written. I could write an essay back as to why Edward IS an abusive boyfriend, but she did make decent points.

I still think Edward is an abusive boyfriend.

I disagree with kayleebabee. Edward is the one who is gay.

Oy, "gay" is not an insult, it's a sexual orientation or another word for "happy." As far as I know, neither Edward or Bella live homosexual lifestyles, and while they do go through happy periods, I don't think that was the point you were trying to make. I agree with lepetitchanteur.

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